Whether your man/woman is chasing you down or NOT, has nothing to do with them. But everything to do with you. Because you create your reality. You are the master of your world. If you don’t seem to be able to have a better relationship with them and keep walking up against the same walls, here’s what you’re doing but SHOULDN’T do: 𝟏. 𝐘𝐨𝐮 𝐤𝐞𝐞𝐩 𝐧𝐨𝐭𝐢𝐜𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐢𝐫 𝐚𝐛𝐬𝐞𝐧𝐜𝐞. You're looking at when and how often they read your messages/ calls. You judge how invested they are into you. And clearly if you do that, what you see is LACK. But if you keep this habit alive, it can’t change. 𝟐. 𝐘𝐨𝐮 𝐣𝐮𝐝𝐠𝐞 𝐞𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐲𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐲 𝐝𝐨 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐠𝐢𝐯𝐞 𝐢𝐭 𝐦𝐞𝐚𝐧𝐢𝐧𝐠. You judge what they say, how they say it, and how much attention they give to you. You fill in what that might mean, e.g. they are not as into me, they have other priorities, they don’t want my love, they’re avoidant, they lie, and so on. Clearly, you’re wired to look for absence/ problems and reasons that love can’t work for you.
You’re wired to watch their ACTIONS (which display love or a lack of it) more so than your intuitive feelings. Because you’re wired to let your outer reality decide what you're worthy of, instead of doing that yourself. 𝐁𝐮𝐭 𝐡𝐞𝐫𝐞’𝐬 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐁𝐈𝐆𝐆𝐄𝐒𝐓 𝐜𝐥𝐢𝐦𝐚𝐱 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐝𝐢𝐝𝐧’𝐭 𝐬𝐞𝐞 𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐢𝐧𝐠. The fact that they show up for you in this way still 𝐡𝐚𝐬 𝐍𝐎𝐓𝐇𝐈𝐍𝐆 𝐭𝐨 𝐝𝐨 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐦.
It happens because you had: ALREADY decided that they are emotionally avoidant. ALREADY decided that they are not trustworthy. ALREADY decided that love won’t flow to you with ease. Because your expectation is what creates the outcomes. Nothing more. Especially if you noticed they were ready and willing to choose you in the beginning, but then seemed to have ‘changed’. YES, shocker but so liberating once you know the power lies in your hands! The easiest way to change all these habits and your concept of them (your judgment) 𝐢𝐬 𝐛𝐲 𝐜𝐡𝐚𝐧𝐠𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐜𝐨𝐧𝐜𝐞𝐩𝐭 𝐨𝐟 𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟. Because it is the concept of Self that you hold that makes you see others / the world as you do. This can be a lot harder to put into practice than it sounds. That’s why I’m here. 𝐓𝐡𝐞𝐫𝐞’𝐬 𝐜𝐮𝐫𝐫𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐥𝐲 2 𝐰𝐚𝐲𝐬 𝐢𝐧 𝐰𝐡𝐢𝐜𝐡 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐜𝐚𝐧 𝐰𝐨𝐫𝐤 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐦𝐞:
1. By joining my Champions of Love Community, with weekly Live Coaching classes. 2. By applying to work 1:1 with me for 1 Full Year. (Very limited spots available). Truth is, with the right support, you can and will transform fast. And skip years of staying in a loop. There’s really not one reason why you would postpone your success because the outcomes are so so sweet!